The âWeighted Vest Effectâ of Having a Difficult Mother
Understanding the long-term emotional weight of growing up with an emotionally immature, narcissistic, or difficult motherâand how to find relief…
Why Hard Conversations Are Hardâand What to Do When Youâre Not Heard
Why do hard conversations leave you drained, overthinking, or feeling guiltâeven now?
What if the reason isnât what you think?
May: Love it, dread it⌠or feel both?
Motherâs Day and complicated emotions. Hope and accompaniment for those who grew up with an emotionally immature parent.
Recognizing Adaptive Patterns: Unlocking Freedom from Old Roles
Have you ever noticed yourself âhandling what needs to be handledââor fixing, reflexively helping, prioritizing everyone elseâbefore even noticing what you need?
If youâve noticed those patterns, what youâre seeing are adaptationsâwise strategies your system once developed to keep you safe, connected, or accepted. And while they once served us, they can shape how we show upâoften without us even realizing it…
Which brings us to Step Three of the Remothering Roadmap: Recognize Your Adaptations.
Weaponized Guilt vs. Aligned Guilt: How to Tell the Difference
Weaponized guilt or aligned guiltâhow do you tell the difference? And once you do⌠then what?
Emotionally hijacked?
Have you ever found yourself emotionally hijacked by something that seemed small⌠but landed somewhere deep?
~Personal story: tales of a recovering ‘good daughter’
Healing Brain States
We can be so harsh with ourselves at times. And perhaps a part of you holds an intention of not being so hard on yourselfâbut at the same time, there are internal beliefs that may say things like:
“Itâs selfish to focus on yourself”, “You’re fineâstop making such a big deal of it”, “Donât get too comfortableâsomething could go wrong.”
Step Two of the Remothering Roadmap: Healing Brain States â learning to work with our brainâs natural wiring, rather than against it.
Am I Being Too Hard on Myself? (And How to TellâŚ)
Ever wrestled with an inner tug-of-warâwondering if you’re being too hard on yourself? Here’s a simple way to tell and a gentle tool to bring more ease.
When Words Fail Us, Navigating Social Threat
Ever found yourself at a complete loss for words in the middle of a tricky conversation?
Or walked away from an interaction, only to think of the perfect response hours later?
Here’s why that can happen (and what we can do about it)…
What Were We Wired For?
Ever feel the weight of unspoken expectations, the pull to help or fix before anyone even asks? Many of us were wired for hyper-awareness, carrying a metaphorical weighted vest without even realizing it.
The good news? That vest can come off. And the strength weâve built along the way? That stays with us.
Letâs explore what we were wired forâand how we can begin rewiring for more peace and ease