Simona Vivi H

Recognizing Adaptive Patterns: Unlocking Freedom from Old Roles

Simona Vivi H on April 27, 2025

Have you ever noticed yourself ‘handling what needs to be handled’—or fixing, reflexively helping, prioritizing everyone else—before even noticing what you need?

If you’ve noticed those patterns, what you’re seeing are adaptations—wise strategies your system once developed to keep you safe, connected, or accepted. And while they once served us, they can shape how we show up—often without us even realizing it…

Which brings us to Step Three of the Remothering Roadmap: Recognize Your Adaptations.

Weaponized Guilt vs. Aligned Guilt: How to Tell the Difference

Simona Vivi H on April 11, 2025

Weaponized guilt or aligned guilt—how do you tell the difference? And once you do… then what?

Emotionally hijacked?

Simona Vivi H on April 5, 2025

Have you ever found yourself emotionally hijacked by something that seemed small… but landed somewhere deep?

~Personal story: tales of a recovering ‘good daughter’

Healing Brain States

Simona Vivi H on March 30, 2025

We can be so harsh with ourselves at times. And perhaps a part of you holds an intention of not being so hard on yourself—but at the same time, there are internal beliefs that may say things like:

“It’s selfish to focus on yourself”, “You’re fine—stop making such a big deal of it”, “Don’t get too comfortable—something could go wrong.”

Step Two of the Remothering Roadmap: Healing Brain States — learning to work with our brain’s natural wiring, rather than against it.

Am I Being Too Hard on Myself? (And How to Tell…)

Simona Vivi H on March 9, 2025

Ever wrestled with an inner tug-of-war—wondering if you’re being too hard on yourself? Here’s a simple way to tell and a gentle tool to bring more ease.

When Words Fail Us, Navigating Social Threat

Simona Vivi H on February 12, 2025

Ever found yourself at a complete loss for words in the middle of a tricky conversation?

Or walked away from an interaction, only to think of the perfect response hours later?

Here’s why that can happen (and what we can do about it)…

What Were We Wired For?

Simona Vivi H on February 1, 2025

Ever feel the weight of unspoken expectations, the pull to help or fix before anyone even asks? Many of us were wired for hyper-awareness, carrying a metaphorical weighted vest without even realizing it.

The good news? That vest can come off. And the strength we’ve built along the way? That stays with us.

Let’s explore what we were wired for—and how we can begin rewiring for more peace and ease

Author: Simona Vivi H