Do I have to forgive my mother?
A perspective on forgiveness specifically for caring and empathic daughters with a complicated mother-daughter dynamic
5 After-Effects of Emotionally Immature Parenting
Growing up with an emotionally immature parent can leave lasting imprints on our psyche and behavior. These imprints often manifest in adulthood as struggles that can be challenging to navigate without understanding their origins.
To that end, here are five common after-effects of growing up with emotionally immature parents and how they shape your adulthood.
Parenting Emerging Adults: individuation and uncertainty
What’s on the other side of those teen years? A new parenting challenge: bearing witness to our emerging adult children navigate through the mists of uncertainty… as we and they learn to trust their unfolding process.
There’s no “what to expect” book for parenting emerging adults. And to make it more challenging, we may not have had healthy individuating modeled for us (ie: if you are the adult child of an emotionally immature parent).
But, there ARE tools we can lean into, so let’s take a look at how remothering moments can support us in surfing our own big feelings as we accompany our emerging adults with theirs.
Quieting Harsh Self-Talk and Inner Task-Managers
Ever struggle with harsh self-talk? What about guilt for taking downtime? In this article we explore how these internal voices form, and more importantly, practical steps to quiet them
Join Us for the reMothering Masterclass Event
For those of us that come from a personal history that taught us that self-anything is indulgent (and, the dreaded s-word, selfish), remothering is a courageous act of self-love.
Reserve your free ticket to this year’s reMothering Masterclass and join us for this empowering adventure
Pen pals via balloon launches (remember those?)
Although Earth Day began in 1970, when I was in elementary school in the late 70’s and early 80’s, we hadn’t gotten the memo yet. Naively unaware of the environmental impact, my 4th grade class sent off balloons in hopes of finding a pen pal.
“Hi, I’m _____. I’m in 4th grade. Do you want to be pen pals?”.
How does that sweet memory relate to remothering? ….
Disentangling from a difficult mother: relief from crushing guilt
A personal story.
I’ll share what happened with the caveat that if you have a healthy relational dynamic with your mother, no matter how carefully I choose my words, this anecdote may not resonate.
How to navigate situations after we’ve spotted our adaptation
Navigating life’s twists after spotting patterns. A community-member shares: ‘Simona, you asked about frustrations, here’s mine: I spotted the adaptation, but I’ve already roped myself into a situation’
Implicit Memory: How Our Brain “Knows” a Thing
Ever notice yourself reverting to old ways of doing and being, and then we wonder wtf?!?
Hint: understanding implicit memory is a key
Setting Boundaries That Stick
Ever wonder why boundaries can feel hard, even when it seems like we “should” know what to do or say?
If our minds still associate boundaries with selfishness or negativity, merely knowing what to say falls short. In this in-depth conversation, I sit down with Juliane Taylor Shore (Jules) to dig into the neuroscience underlying our ability to set boundaries.