Tool for Boundaries without Bracing
Ever find yourself tightening or bracing before you communicate a boundary?
When we’re bracing for boundaries, one of the things that may be happening is that somewhere in our personal histories, our brains linked up that another person’s disappointment or another person’s reaction to something that we are saying feels to our bodies like a survival level event.
And the good news is, we don’t have to unpack why our brains linked that up in order to be able to set boundaries more effectively.
Tool for Boundaries Without Bracing:
So in addition to the tips and the scripts which you can find here and here, there’s one tool that is so important.
And I’d like to say that although it’s seemingly simple, it is incredibly powerful….
When we are feeling that bracing feeling or that tension, what we can do is simply place our hands on our hearts, and remind ourselves, (our internal community between our own two ears) that we’ve got them.
And what happens when we do, is that we’re sending soothing neurochemicals to our system that allow us to access the things that we already know and allow us to access better solutions.
More Boundary Resources
- Prefer to watch? Bracing For Boundaries, YouTube Clip
- [article] Mastering Boundary Fundamentals
- [article] How to Set a Boundary
- [free boundary guidebook] Language of Boundaries
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
- For Parents of Older Teens or Young Adults
3 Keys to Set Loving Boundaries… without guilt or power struggles [free workshop]
- For Moms Navigating Distance with Adult Daughters
Sometimes WE are the complicated mother, uggh!?!?
- For Mothers And/Or Daughters Navigating Complicated Dynamics
Book a Relief Blueprint Session
